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The G-spot
is an area of tissue above the vaginal wall on the tummy side, which
when stimulated swells to the size of a dime/quarter and varies
from having no sensation to great sensation from woman to woman.
It is considered to be the female prostate gland because it is in
a similar position to the urethra as a man’s prostate and urethra.
Hence the prostate is referred to as the male G-spot. According
to Dr. Beverly Whipple, who with Alice Ladas is responsible for
naming the G-spot and wrote the book on same, most women cannot
physically find their own G-spots.
To find the G-spot: Imagine there is a clock face overlaying the
vaginal entry of a woman with 12 at the top peak of where her pubic
hair is. Typically the vaginal wall’s areas of greatest sensitivity
are between 11:00 o’clock and the 1:00 o’clock position with 12:00
as prime area for most women. A woman must be sexually excited,
as the G-spot area needs to engorge with blood from the stimulation
in order to be felt. Otherwise pressure on that area often gives
a woman the feeling she has to go to the bathroom.
G-spot stimulation gives a woman a more “all over her body” feel
and a “pushing down” feel at orgasm rather than the clitoral orgasmic
feel of pulling up and in.
Are there different kinds of orgasms for a woman? I have them, but
I’m just not sure which type I’m having!
Interestingly enough when a man has an orgasm he just has an orgasm,
but when a woman has an orgasm we go on this orgasm locator hunt
to determine its origin. There are a couple of reasons I think this
happens. First, a woman’s orgasm isn’t as physically obvious as
a man’s and second, women’s bodies have more parts that can be stimulated.
Female sexual responses are more subtle, more complex and much more
misunderstood than male sexual response.
Technically, there are eight types of female orgasms, generally
named by the spot that’s stimulated. 1) Clitoral, 2) G-spot, 3)
Vaginal (could be G-spot stimulation or any highly sensitive spot
within the vagina), 4) U-spot (stimulating the urethral area), 5)
C-spot (stimulating the cervical area – hypogastric nerve) 6) Fantasizing
without physical stimulation, 7) Blended - where both the pudendal
and pelvic nerve systems are being stimulated at the same time,
8) Nipple or other sensitive body part.
My husband and I just had a baby. He wants to
have sex even more often than he did before the baby. I don't want
to have sex at all. How can we work this out?
Here in lies the dilemma that is the result of sex--a child, which
usually means less sex. After the baby is born, men are no longer
the focus of their wives' attention and they often feel left out.
If you realize that the No. 1 way your husband feels his most manly
is when he is making love/having sex with you, perhaps that will
put this into perspective. When he feels cut off from this connection
with you, the part of who he is as a man and in your relationship
isn't being attended to. And the less sex there is, the more important
it is to get it.
Chances are that you are SOOOOO tired and the last thing you are
thinking of when you see bed is sex. You think of sleep. If you're
breast-feeding, you might not feel your body is your own, as women
who nurse commonly do after giving birth. Also after giving birth,
the parts of a woman's body that she knew to be sexy, such as her
genitals and her breasts, have changed, and now she doesn't feel
they are alluring any more.
The intimate part of your relationship is often the glue, and as
new parents, you need to make sure that gets nurtured, not just
the baby. You will come to understand schedules like you never did
before. Part of that schedule has to include your relationship.
If that means setting aside 30 minutes in an evening for sex or
setting the alarm for 15 minutes earlier, do it! You both deserve
to have the "pre-baby
we're sexual adults" time.
I recently became intimate with someone who will not discuss his
sexual history with me. He wears a condom but he gets angry with
me when I ask about his past. How can I find out what I want to
know?
First, may I say I don’t think anyone wants to keep his or her good
sexual health a secret. We are all living with the scepter of STDs
(sexually transmitted diseases) hanging over our heads and it's
necessary to keep yourself safe. It is part of sexual self-respect.
And yet, the truth is, most people edit their response when questioned
about their sexual past.
The only real way to get answers to your questions is with his
cooperation and if he feels he’s being judged from the outset, that
isn’t likely to happen. You might say, “Babe, I’m dying to do all
these wild things with you, but for me to totally let go I need
to know I am safe and only you can make me feel that way."
Are
there really 6000 positions or is that a myth?
There are six positions and everything else is a variation. There
is 1) Woman on top aka female superior, 2) Man on Top aka male superior,
3) Side-by-side, 4) Sitting or kneeling, 5) Standing, or 6) Male
from behind. All other positions are actually variations of the
above. And even better, some cross categories.
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