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What is an enlightened state? I think of monks and a lifestyle that I have no way of attaining. Is it possible to be enlightened and live a normal life?


Of course, it's possible. Even monks live in this world. There is a Zen saying, "Before enlightenment, till the soil and carry the water. After enlightenment, till the soil and carry the water." The message is that it's not the outer world but the inner world which changes with enlightenment, bringing about a profound shift in the way we view life, the world and our purpose in living. See life as something to learn from and enjoy. Understand that the inner world is connected with the source of all life and the wellspring from which we drink.

A friend of mine recently told me that I should learn to "connect with my soul." I'm not quite sure what she meant or why it is important to do that.

It is important because it is the soul that vivifies, radiates and energizes the world surrounding us.. When we are out of touch with our own souls, we also lose touch with the life force that gives us a sense of purpose, meaning and connectedness. When we see soul as a part of all that is living, we learn to use life circumstances, i.e., relationships, as vehicles for soul growth or, as Matthew Fox (Coleman for those who don't know you need to identify who he is. If he has books, then mentioning that would be good because you could link to Amazon)would put it, for growing soul. When our relationships become vehicles for soul making, they take on a larger purpose, which helps us to be less petty-less stuck in our own perspective and more expansive-allowing and forgiving.

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