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 I’m
sorry you feel that way. You need to examine why you’re so fearful.
Keep a
journal of your thoughts to get more insight into why you’re
afraid. Consider joining a therapy or support group and find a therapist
to talk with about your fears so you can better understand their
origins. Also, look for antidotes. Deepen your spirituality through
meditation
or join a spiritual community of your choice. This will help you
build love and faith,
which can counter your fears. In 12-step
rooms we learn to surrender to fears and to stop fighting them
by turning them over to our Higher Power.
The way I view myself is very different from how my friends describe
me. I don’t like the fact that there seems to be a disconnection.
If you think you’re very different from the personality you are
projecting, either your friends are not being truly honest and they
really do see cracks in the armor but don’t want to hurt your feelings,
or you need to integrate your inner world with your outer world
a little more. Ask yourself these questions: Am I afraid to be myself?
How could I be continuing a childhood
pattern of hiding what’s inside of me? Do I think my friends,
family and/or coworkers would reject me if they saw the real me?
All of us experience what you’re sensing to some extent. And,
feeling like a fraud or that you’re holding yourself back is
not uncommon. However, if you have difficulty expressing who you
really are or you believe you’re projecting a false image to others,
try bringing the inner and the outer into greater harmony. That
usually means therapy or a support group in which you can really
open up and share your inner world.
I
have been reading a bit about Buddhism.
Buddhist principles interest me and make more sense to me than my
own religion. I’m not sure if I should pursue it.
The only way you will know if it’s for you or not is by exploring
it. Do some more reading and rely on your own direct experience.
If Buddhism can be helpful in your life, you will sense it. Since
the Baby Boomers came of age, Eastern
religion has gained a great deal of popularity in America. Its
flexibility, unassuming philosophy and accepting attitude, along
with its practical advice on how to become closer to both self and
God, appeal to many Americans who are seeking deeper relationships
with their self
and soul.
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