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 Yes,
I believe in soul mates, but I believe that a person can also turn
their partner into a soul mate through the commitment, love and
life experiences that are laced together over time. A soul mate
is usually seen as the one individual on Earth you are meant to
be with, with whom you can best grow into the person you wish to
become. All too often we see a soul mate as a solution to our problems
rather than a partner on a path of spiritual growth. If we think
of our soul mates as our partners in soul making, as someone who
will help us to self-actualize as we will help them, and as that
person with whom we wish to nurture life and be part of a greater
purpose, we will have a better chance of having a soul mate.
I feel like the well of love within me has gone
dry. How can I fill it up again?
There is an endless source of love and spirituality available at
all times whether you know it or not. You're not the only source
of love, and the well that's within you is tapped into the eternal
well of God. When you look within yourself know that you are looking
at a Higher Power as well, and that the energy of Higher wisdom
and spirituality is available to you at all times. If you see yourself
as the sole generator of all of you, you'll feel isolated and limited.
The source of love is limitless and once you recognize that you
can "Be still and know that I am God" (Ps. 46:10).
My
anxiety about aging isn't fading but intensifying. Is there a meditation
I can use to accept my advanced years?
Certainly
you can use an affirmation to yourself like "my beauty comes
from within," or "beauty comes from the heart." But
an affirmation alone is not the whole answer. We are a youth culture--not
only do we not like aging particularly--we worship all things young.
This has some very tragic consequences. It robs the young of their
mentors (namely us) because we envy them and resent our own age;
it encourages people to trade relationships and authentic companionship
for youth in marriage and it deprives families and societies from
the stability and depth that elders provide. Life has its seasons.
Research says that people over 50 report being happier than at any
time in life. We need to support our youth, not envy them. They
need us to look up to and to help them to take on the challenges
of life. It is their turn to be young. How can we help them to accept
life if we cannot? Our culture needs to learn to see beauty in older
faces.
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